12 behaviors that make them different from everyone else

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Not everyone gets writers. No one understands us, including ourselves. It’s why we spend most of our time in our heads and in our own space trying to figure things out.

I’ve noticed that most of the things that I do are not by most other people. Every day, as I wake up and live my life, I notice that I’m an oddity from the general population. When I blurt things out or make observations about things around me, I find them brilliant while random strangers in the coffee shop turn around and stare.

Most people you pass by in your daily life are likely passing by with some thoughts about what they’re doing, where they’re going, and what they have to do for the day. On the other hand, writers are observing others, making strong observations, having opinions, analyzing the world, creating plots in their head, and thinking of the next thing to write. …


The importance of her mixed-race identity

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There has been much debate of late on how to identify our first female Vice President of color, Kamala Harris. She’s been described as our first black and African American Vice President because of her Jamaican father but she’s been defined in different ways because of her Indian mother.

Some have called her Indian, some have called her South Asian, and others have referred to her as our first Asian American Vice-President. Why the confusion and why the many ways of describing Kamala Harris? What’s the best way to define her Indian heritage? …


A woman of color is in close proximity to the highest office

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A woman of color is the Vice-President of the United States.

Who would have imagined that it was possible? Yet here we are with our first African-American, Asian-American, female Vice President.

The racists have already given us a preview of what’s to come after President Biden and Vice President Harris take office. It’s not about President Biden and what he does in office but much of the focus and attacks will be about the woman of color who is second in command.

Ex-President Trump, without hiding the ball, gave us a preview of the coming attacks on the current Vice President. With Trump, the racism and sexism couldn’t be hidden. He represents what his followers think and believe and he expresses it without any hesitation. …


Divorce can be a catalyst for a new way of living

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Many people I knew seemed to know more about my divorce than I did. They asked probing questions. They wanted me to confirm or deny what had happened. They wanted to know the intimate details. And the people in our lives who didn’t ask, worked off innuendoes, rumors, and gossip.

While my divorce may have been a painful time as everything between us became public, there is something profoundly valuable that came out of it.

The question that ruled my life

For much of my life, I used to care what people thought. I couldn’t help it. …


Nicolas Cole encourages you to write here instead

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No one showed up after I hit publish on my blog.

It was hard work to find readers and bring them to my personal blog. When I first started blogging, I couldn’t find many people who knew about it. I’d send my posts to my brothers and put it out on Twitter. I’d get about 10 views per post.

I really didn’t understand why no one was showing up. How were other people getting so many views and readers when I wasn’t. I thought you just had to write and people would come. …


No hard feelings and no offense taken.

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Dear Editor,

I received your very kind and thoughtful note rejecting my last piece again. This was the 8th rejection, but not to worry about a thing.

I have no hard feelings, and I totally understand where you’re coming from. You get so many of these posts every single week, and your publication is focused on your niche and a specific point of view. No one has any idea what that the publication niches are or your point of view is, for that matter, but likely you do. …


7 ways to serve your customers in any business

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My most recent half-hour cab ride from the airport changed the way I saw cab drivers for good. It had been some time that I’ve ridden in a taxi, preferring the convenience of one of the ride-sharing apps like Uber or Grab.

In Malaysia, several ride-sharing apps allow passengers to hail a ride from their smartphones. Companies like Grab and Mula dominate the ride-share market, offering rides for passengers to their desired destinations. …


It also tore us further apart.

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We had met 6 months ago in the oddest of circumstances. I was flying to Bali in early 2020 to meet up with a friend from the U.S. We were going to tour Bali together before I headed off to other parts of Asia.

En route to Bali, my friend met an Indonesian woman returning home from Europe because of her brother’s tragic passing. The two women found themselves in transit on the way to Bali and spent a night in the transit lounge chatting with each other about their lives. …


They are too busy living the life they don’t.

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“The path from dreams to success does exist. May you have the vision to find it, the courage to get on to it, and the perseverance to follow it.” Kalpana Chawla

My life looked pretty good about 10 years ago. At least from the outside, it looked good. I was practicing law at a small law firm, owned a house and was thinking of starting a family with the woman I had married.

My life was busy with my career, marriage, and social life. On the outside, everything seemed like it was going like it was supposed to but if you asked me what I truly wanted in life, I would have told you that I wanted to live a simple, spiritual, and creative life. …


I’ve never been more wrong in my entire life.

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“He might just be able to unite the country. Maybe after all of these professional politicians, we can have someone come in and shake things up in Washington.

I have a feeling that he’s actually a Democrat since he gave lots of money to Democrats and had pretty liberal ideas before he became President. Maybe he’s not a conservative but really a liberal who’s playing the part of a conservative just to have gotten elected.

The country is in so much gridlock right now, and maybe Trump is just what this country needs. Someone from the outside who can shake up the political establishment. …

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Vishnu*s Virtues

Simple ideas to get out of your own way & live a meaningful life | Ex-lawyer, ex Californian, ex-husband | 750,000+ views. Blog: https://www.vishnusvirtues.com/

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