How I opened myself up to the possibility of new relationships

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For years of my life, I marinated in heartbreak.

After my marriage and eventual divorce, I found myself lost in the world and without a plan.

I never envisioned my love story ending in divorce but that was the chapter of my life that I found myself in. …


#3. You are no longer angry with them.

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Getting over an ex is not easy for everyone.

Some move on fairly quickly while others like myself, take years of our lives to get over a breakup.

When we got to the point of ending our 7-year marriage, I was distraught. Yes, we had our problems from the day…


It could be a sign of your own unavailability.

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I’ve fallen into the trap of falling in love with people who needed help and were struggling.

First, I fell for someone who was trying to escape from her strict parents. She wanted a way out from controlling parents and curfews. She was in her 20’s and was in college…


These 7 quick tips will get you further

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I’m guilty of it just like every other writer on this platform.

The best way to become the writer you want to be is to write more.

You’ll never become better, never earn more or gain more traction until you put lots of content out there.

Lots of quantity is…


Lessons from mentoring dozens of writers on the platform.

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The end of the month is the worst when it comes to writing in these parts.

You dread the end of the month because you’re going to be reading article after article about people succeeding on Medium.

Every month new writers are hitting the three-figure mark and even more people…


What I’ve gained besides subscribers and earnings.

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I started writing when I was going through one of the most painful events in my life.

Writing became an outlet for me to share with others what I was going through. In the process of healing from divorce and heartbreak, writing became a way to earn money as well.


Why are workers who matter most, valued less?

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The people who do the most important work are the least valued.

As I spent part of the pandemic in Asia, the people who had the most impact on my life were not in corporate offices, weren’t television stars or influencers.

The person who had the most impact on my…


The answer isn’t always writing more

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You know that you were born to write.

You have a writing ability that not many people do. You might even know that it’s your gift.

The idea here isn’t that you can’t write but it’s something that’s going on in your life that’s preventing you from writing.

It’s not…


Lessons from brainstorming with dozens of writers.

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Having a free flow of ideas is helpful as a writer.

The most painful thing is sitting down and having nothing to say. The idea is to brainstorm and ideate in your non-writing time and become a writing machine when you sit down to write

After a good writing month…


These friendly publications are on your side

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Publications aren’t worth the trouble or the time.

I’m not someone who has played the publications game while on Medium. As a writer on Medium, I may have shown up on a large Medium publication about 15 times. While I enjoy the opportunity to write for the Accent, P.S. …

Vishnu*s Virtues

Let’s achieve our writing dreams together | Topics: writing and relationships | Californian, Malaysian| 750K+ Med views. Blog: https://www.vishnusvirtues.com/

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